The "Joys" of Dating.

Two of my friends lately have started Blogs and I guess I’m next. This Blog is mostly for me to rant and share how I see the world to the people who read this; if anyone reads this of course. I’m not sure how often I’m going to post because I’m busy and right now I’m doing it because I’m bored.

So enough of why I started this.

Today I woke up to two texts with people pretty much criticizing me because I don’t have a boyfriend. Yes. I don’t have a boyfriend and never have. I’ve been on like one date and I’m not even sure if I should count it. Sad isn’t it. I guess to some. But I’ve lived like this all my life and have come to accept it. I don’t really see the big deal of having a boyfriend. Don’t get me wrong. I do want one, someday, and would love to be asked out on a date, but I don’t wish for it 24/7. This also doesn’t mean I’m Lesbian (not that there’s anything wrong with that, I actually support people who are) or that I am not as good as others, caus I’m a great person, as I’ve been told, and I’m straight and do check out guys.

You: “Really?! OMG!”

Me: “Yes. I do. And some are mighty fine.”

I noticed in High School that everyone was dating and it seemed like a lot of fun, but also a lot of stress and extra pressure. Let’s also not forget all the added drama that came with dating in High School. I got so sick of my friends talking about who’s dating who, what couples are in a fight, etc. I saw no point of getting into other people’s business unless it involved me. Their love life should not be the topic of conversation while I was trying to do Calculus.

I’m now in College and have come into a whole new world of relationships. I see so many couples around campus and have people who are even married in most of my classes. It’s overwhelming. Some of my friends have boyfriends/girlfriends and I’m happy for them and as long as they’re still my friends I’m good. What does bug me a bit with my friends being in a relationship is when they ditch me on every occasion just because they’d rather be making lovey-dovey faces to their partner. I understand that you want to be with your lover a lot and not be with me as much and that’s fine, just don’t make plans with me then. I have other people I can be with and other things I can do besides waiting around for someone who’s just going to bail. Maybe I’m just a little biased because I’ve never experienced the “joys” of dating but I do want to point out that I know how friends should act towards each other and that does not include using your friend as a door mat to use just when you need it and no other time. 

 The topic of dating, past relationships and marriage come up in conversations a lot now since I’ve entered into the world of college. People say “you need to get married.” I don’t NEED to, yes I WANT to, but I don’t HAVE to. There’s a few things before I can get married though including, going on a date, getting a boyfriend, and then if things work out getting engaged. That’s not going to happen in a few weeks like it seems everyone thinks it does. It’s going to take months and possibly years. I listen to my friends experiences with past boyfriends/girlfriends and love their stories but I’ll admit, I also get somewhat jealous of them. They seem to forget I’ve never had those experiences and they talk to me like I know what they’ve felt and like I have stories. It’s kinda funny when I can tell they want me to tell a story and then they realize I don’t have any and they try to cover it up and they think I can’t tell. I do see that people! I’m not totally blind. Blonde is different than being blind.

Another thing that bugs me is when people try to cover that forgetful moment of theirs with telling me I need to ask someone out or with them asking if I’ve been asked on any dates yet. First off, it’s none of your business and if I wanted you to know I’d tell you. Secondly, don’t you think I’ve thought of asking someone out?! I have, I just don’t feel like I’m ready or it’s the right time. I don’t want to ruin friendships and I need to make sure it won’t before I try and ask them out! Any questions? Good!

So all in all, No, I like don’t have a boyfriend and never have. Yes I do like guys and even have “crushes” on some. Yes I would like a date but not until the time is right and they ask me on their own free will or I ask them out of mine. I have friends and that’s good enough for me at the moment. Now stop being stupid and thinking I’m less then you because I’m Single and haven’t gone through the “joys” of dating. Everyone good? GREAT!