Classifying People

Classifying People

I’ve noticed that there are about 4 different type of people in the world:

The people who give without wanting anything in return. They’re the ones who end up doing so much for others because they enjoy it and want other people to be happy. It seems that their purpose in life is making others happy. They want everyone around them happy and then they can be happy as well. They are used quite a bit and end up somewhat depressed sometime in their life. Let’s call these people Lovers.

The people who take advantage of the lovers. They use them for all their worth. These people are manipulative and greedy. They only care about themselves and think the world revolves around them. They are controlling and need to have everything that happens to them under their control. They are also judgmental and look down on others. For the sake of this Blog we shall call them Narcissists.

The people who are just “normal.” These people will use the lovers when needed and just take what they give. These people will do things for others and may say it’s out of the goodness of their heart and don’t want anything in return but in reality they want something weather it is appreciation or good luck or anything else you can think of. These people will also manipulate others but not as much as a narcissist would. These people end up going with the flow but also like to know what’s going on in their lives so they can control it to an extent. They do what is needed of them and usually nothing more. They care about others but also care about themselves more and end up being judgmental but not to the extent of the Narcissist. They are good people but have hidden darkness in their lives and their mind. Let’s call these people Fred.

The people who really truly don’t care at all. These people usually just go with the flow. They don’t care what happens to them and what they end up doing. They want people to make decisions for them because they can’t think for themselves. These people will sometimes bounce back and forth between the other 3 but will usually stay a Robot.

Did you feel like you just read a Psychology theory? Sorry. I’m a psych major and this is the way I think. Isn’t that what I said this blog is kinda about? My view on the world? If you get offended sorry. This is just me. Everyone sees the world different.

Anyways, back to my psychological theory of people. I believe people can fluctuate throughout the different classifications but have a main one they usually fall under. I’ve noticed most people fall under the Fred category.

You: “Why did you call it “Fred?” I understand the others but why that one?”

Me: “Very good question! I called it Fred because usually when people think of naming some random object they want to call it Bob or Fred. This is just a weird thing that people do. I did it because It’s used in society a lot and it seems to be the norm which Fred is the norm of classifications.”

Confused? Ok. Let me explain in a better way. When people say “What should I name this?” usually people think of the names Bob or Fred. I have no idea why but they do. The Fred classification is actually the classification most of the population (mainly the population/societies that I have been around to observe) fall under. Most people will fall under this classification and act the way described.

Again this is only what I think and what I have observed. This is how I see the world. None of this is actual concrete, psychologically proven fact. You may think I’m messed up and weird but oh well.

Anyways. Let’s go a little more in depth and I can give examples for each classification.

Lovers:

The names seems to speak for itself. These are the people who help others at any cost. These people seem to be very rare. These aren’t the people at Christmas giving away money or toys. Ok, they probably do but just because you see someone do that doesn’t mean they’re a lover. Around Christmas or in a time of crises the Fred’s will step up and be charitable but being a lover goes deeper then charity. Lovers are the ones who will do anything for a friend. They like to show people how much they care about them and will never think twice about it. They don’t want anything in return. These people will usually end up being used by others because the other classifications see the lovers as weak as if trying to buy friendship and love. That’s not the case. When a lover feels used it defeats the purpose of their kindness and love and the lover usually feels like they’ve lost everything. This isn’t hypocritical of them. These lovers feed off other people and friends. When their deeds are taken advantage of their purpose is corrupted and they end up having no more purpose and become depressed. On rare occasions the lover will never have to be used but more then not they will end up sad and depressed.

 Narcissists:

I hope everyone here knows what a narcissist is. If not I’m going to be SO kind and define it from Dictionary.com:  nar·cis·sist [nahr-suh-si st] noun. 1. A person who is overly self-involved, and often vain and selfish. 2. Psychoanalysis- a person who suffers from narcissism, deriving erotic gratification from admiration of his or her own physical or mental attributes. There you have it! Hope you now see the connection in the classification and the name. These people are the ones that everyone usually hates (sadly) and have somewhat of a lonely life. These people only care about themselves and think everyone should adore them and they should be treated like gods. Now these aren’t the people who mess around and act this way. There’s a huge difference between messing around and actually falling under the narcissist category.

You: "How can you tell if they're joking or not? I don't think there's really a difference."

Me: "No there's a difference. I know people who fall under the narcissist classification and people who just mess around in that way. I can tell because the people who mess around have more traits of another classification and don't expect everyone just to love them."

Ya. that's right. The narcissist classification is a touchy one and it's hard to place people in. If people fall under this classification you'll know. They are hands down an example of the definition given.

Fred's:

These are most of the population (that I've witnessed). These people use others (unintentionally) to make their life good. The roll is also reversed. They are used by others as well for the same reason. The Fred's seem to function as a corrupt, well oiled machine. These people are just the norm of society. They take and give that it balances out. The Fred's will sometimes have a few other traits of a Lover of a Narcissist but will mainly stay in their own classification. They will sometimes seem like they have traits of a Robot, but that may just be because they're lazy which is not what a Robot is.

Robots:

These people aren't the couch potatoes that generally people think of. These people do get out and do things but it takes a lot of effort on others. These people seem to not care about most things and just let life happen around them. they will usually do the bare minimum for life to happen. These people will usually fluctuate between all four classifications on occasions but will still not care about what happens and will do only what is necessary for happiness. They will mainly stick with the Robot traits. 

So you're probably wondering where I fall. Well I'm not going to tell you! HA! I think I have an idea where I am but I'm not 100% sure. I can't observe my own behavior so maybe one day I'll ask someone to tell me. As you've probably noticed there's perks to each classification as well as downfalls. What can I say?! We're all humans and we all suck. I will admit that I've used this classification in my own life. I've classified my friends. Yes I do. What can I say? I'm a Psych Major! I observe my friends behavior to understand them more and their personality style. I'll even say things sometimes or set up situations just to see how they react. i think a lot of people do this but I'm just aware of it and open about it (I tend to be very blunt). We all want to know who is like us and who is different and how to behave around people and how to handle them. I'm glad that my friends classifications are nothing to worry about. I now just know how they function (and no I will not tell you where you fall). 

Again, this is NOT a tested theory. This is my mind working and how I see the world and people. Now try and guess your classification and your friends. ;D